*serious...need advice

**Ivramire** · 11-10-2007, 06:38 AM

What I am about to post is highly personal,....to be frank, probably inappropiate for a public forum, possibly life-altering(for me) and holds consequences that I am going to have to live with.

I have recently taken a very important test and received a score that exceeded my widest expectations. 99 out of a possible 100.

Because of this score my plans for the future have been drastically altered.
I had previously planned to attend the school that my girl-friend was attending, a well-established college that I would have been proud to attend.But this test has thrown a spanner in the works.

I now have to make the choice between attending the school that my gf attends or an even more prestigious school which will probably open more doors later in life.

The decision at first seems obvious.The better school where you will get a better education and thus be able to advance later in life.
It isn't so simple...I have known her since we were 5, friends since we were 6,
in a relationship since we were teens, and in all that time I have never been further than a 30 minute car-ride away from her.

We went to the same schools, went to the same classes, our parents are close-friends and have seen us together for a long time.She was the one who saw me through my parent's divorce and I honestly believe that I wouldn't have been the same person without her.Despite the length of time that I have known her it was only recently that we managed to see each other as anything other than friends and I am frankly very insecure.Most relationships like these are too good to be true, and I wonder mostly every day why someone like her is with someone like me.People tell me that I have to take more pride in what I've managed to do and to have more confidence in myself but in the face of something like this I have none at all.

I don't want to imagine any appreciable amount of time without her but I am genuinely torn between the two decisions.I have exhausted all possible means of help...close friends, my parents, her parents, everyone I know whose opinion I hold in regard.Now i'm asking here.This is my last resort before I consider all my options and I need the opinions of people who don't know me irl before I make a decision.

**Hraesvelg** · 11-10-2007, 06:43 AM

Go to the school. If she's as steadfast and faithful as you report she is, she'll understand that you're investing in both of your futures and can put up with a few years of semi-seperation.

If not, then she's probably more selfish than you realize, which will come back to bite you in the ass later.

Then, if things don't work out...tons of college ass miles away from where people know you. It'll all work out.

**Ivramire** · 11-10-2007, 06:47 AM

thank you hraes...I think things are a little clearer now

**Blaaaaaaaah** · 11-10-2007, 06:53 AM

If you go to another school - is it really really far away (meaning you won't be able to see her at all much)? Or would that just mean that you won't be able to see her as often as you used to, but you can still see her like once or twice a week or something?

**Ivramire** · 11-10-2007, 06:55 AM

Originally Posted by Blaaaaaaaah

If you go to another school - is it really really far away (meaning you won't be able to see her at all much)? Or would that just mean that you won't be able to see her as often as you used to, but you can still see her like once or twice a week or something?

seeing her would be a every 2 months kind of thing.

**Blaaaaaaaah** · 11-10-2007, 07:07 AM

D: Ohh..

Well yeah, I completely agree with Hrae.

I guess you can say it'll be like a "test" of the relationship o: (sounds corny, lol). But yeah, do you want to go to a better school? Sometimes opportunities like this are rare, and if you pass it up, then you might miss out on something.

There is always phone/other means of communications to keep you guys in touch. o:

**Yosei** · 11-10-2007, 07:12 AM

I agree with the above. Go to the better school, she'll understand. Might as well make the best of your education! ^^ Months apart doesn't compare to a life time together.

**Ivramire** · 11-10-2007, 07:14 AM

There's a few things I forgot to include...one of which is the cost.

The school my gf goes to offered me a full-scholarship... something my family needs right now.The other school offers only 50% and if I go I'd have to move there and live with my aunt who is having some problems of her own.

The money isn't really a big-enough deal to discredit it and my aunt could take me in but it complicates things a bit.Most of my friends also go to my gf's school and it's just something to consider.

**O-mie** · 11-10-2007, 07:18 AM

Go to the better school.

You'll miss her and she'll miss you, but you'll still see each other. That gives you something to anticipate :3 And will probably strengthen your relationship. Distance makes the heart grow fonder.

**Yosei** · 11-10-2007, 07:30 AM

I know it may seem mean, but its rarely a good idea to go to a place because friends are there. All schools are different and each student is different.
What do you want to major in? I'd go more for what the schools offer.